Have you ever said, “I don't want a relationship? I'm through with men?”
If you have, I'd like to congratulate you. It could be the most sensible decision you ever make...
Provided you go about it the right way.
It all depends what you tell yourself, of course. If you tell yourself a story of all men being bad news, and you always attracting the wrong ones, that probably doesn't serve to make you feel any better about yourself.
If you want better relationships, you need to start with better beliefs about yourself. TWEET THIS
The path to better relationships starts with you feeling better about yourself.
So, how about having a well-earned 'Sabbatical' from men, and relationships?
The fun thing about a Relationship Sabbatical is that it is a time for learning, and growing, and consolidation. Sabbaticals came about as a time when people could focus on bringing something new into being.
Like a new way of doing relationships.
If bad relationships, and men who are not worthy of who you truly are, have kept showing up in your life, it means something:
Specifically, it means that you have yet to discover a way of doing relationships that works to your best advantage – and to your partner's best advantage, also.
A good relationship is one in which both partners can – and do - foster what is best in themselves, and in the other.
Learning something new tends to mean acquiring a new skill.
Much as I have always been fascinated by stories of people who wake up one day fluent in a language they have never learned, or had any exposure to, it is at best a freak occurrence. Most times, we have to learn how to do something new.
Most things are within our reach if we just take the time to learn them.
Certainly, having a great, lasting, loving relationship is within your reach, provided you just take the time to learn how to do it.
Having a loving, lasting relationship is within everyone's reach. TWEET THIS
It really helps if you know what works, and what doesn't. It works even better when you understand why some things work, and why they do not.
The best time to do that is... when you're having a Sabbatical. You've got time to explore, and experiment, and play, and learn, safely.
I remember listening to an air traffic controller who said that, in his job, doing his best was never going to be good enough. He had to get it right every time. That makes sense, doesn't it? That's why the training was long and rigorous before he was ever let loose off the simulator.
If you're tired of the Hit-and-Miss Method of Relationship Building, you deserve a Sabbatical, and some great beliefs about yourself. It will make all the difference.