This week, I've been talking with another lovely, gifted woman who has Dreams, Aspirations, and one Big Obstacle in her way.
You'll never guess that what obstacle is:
She doesn't think she is good enough.
Actually, it's a bit worse than that. She routinely compares herself to other people, finds herself less worthy and deserving, and she's let this belief become her map of the world. The result is that:
a) this belief feels absolutely true and normal to her
b) she is labouring under the illusion that everyone else feels the same way as she does
At one point in our conversation she asked me: “Aren't you stymied by the belief that other people are better than you?”
Here's how I replied. “Absolutely NOT. I'm truly delighted that there are great people out there. The more of them there are, the better. They do not in any way diminish me. Life shouldn't have to be a comparison website. There are as many ways to be great as there are individuals. Your job is simply to embrace your own way. Being who you truly are is the greatest gift you have to offer. The more you embrace your authenticity, the more you have to contribute to the World.
“Why would you not do it? Why would you settle for living your life as a negative comparison website?”
I don't know if you know that old Mark Victor Hansen saying:
“There is an ocean of abundance and one can tap into it with a teaspoon, a bucket or a tractor trailer. The ocean doesn't care.”
There is more than enough greatness to go round, for everyone. There's only thing that truly gets in the way of you tapping into the the feeling of being good enough to enjoy masive rewards. That one thing is embracing your authenticity.
Being a pale imitation of other people won't work.
Being the shadow of who you truly are is even less effective.
Will you do it?