Dear Younger Self, You Need To Know This

  youngerme Dear Younger Self, I've been thinking about you, and it strikes me there are a few things you need to know. So, I'm taking the liberty of sharing with you a few of the things that I wish a sympathetic adult had shared with me when I was 16, in the hope that they will what lies ahead easier for you. It’s tough being 16, it really is.  You already know you have to do this thing called Life, but you don’t know how.  People tell you you should do Life their way;– and that doesn’t make things better - because you are not them.  It’s your life. You’re determined to do it your way. But that’s a big ask when you don’t yet know who you are.  Most of your ideas about the How come straight from Hollywood:  just find the love of your life, and Everything will fall into place. Your well-being matters hugely to me.  So, here are a few pointers that might help you. Useful pointers for the younger self
  • Life is a journey, not a series of boxes you have to tick. You already have all the resources you’ll ever need to make that journey rich, meaning, and enjoyable. You just don’t know that you have them – yet.
  • Living is the process whereby you discover and share all the amazing gifts you hope – and secretly believe - you might have. Only to discover you had even more gifts than you previously thought!
  • Comparing yourself to others is pointless. The fact is, you are unique and wonderful just as you are (even if you don’t believe that, yet).  Your job is to allow those qualities to shine.  This may take a while, but oak trees don’t spring up overnight, either.
  • Don’t waste energy believing people who tell you what you cannot be, or do, or have. They can’t read your future –although they may think they can.  Don’t let their negativity blight your precious life.
  • Commit to working on your personal development. You’ve spent 11 years at school learning a ton of stuff you’ll never use.  But nobody has taught you how to master your moods, feel at peace with your emotions, or love yourself.  That’s like being let loose on the motorway without learning how to drive.  You are the one person in your life who you cannot avoid. The way you treat yourself is the way the world will treat you.
  • Try not to control Life. Life doesn’t have a downer on you; it isn’t out to get you. It just places hurdles along your way.  How you get over them and what help you enlist is up to you.
  • Trust your intuition; it’s your inner Sat Nav - or wisdom, if you prefer. You may not always like what it says but treat it with respect and it will keep you safe, happy, and loved.
  • Making mistakes is part of the deal, don’t be afraid of them, and don’t waste time regretting them. Simply learn from them. Always ask yourself: “What is the gift in this situation?” until you find it.
  • Learn to love yourself sooner rather than later . You learn to love yourself so you can love others – and be loved – better.  Don’t worry about becoming selfish. You care too much about other people for that ever to happen.
Dear Younger Self, dark times will come and go – that’s part of Life.  Take, as my gift to you, the knowledge that you are – and always will be – immensely loved, and loveable.   Love,
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