Wouldn't it be nice if every little girl was born with a magic wand in her pudgy little fist? And she could use that magic wand to perfect the people in her life who are nearly the people she knows they could be?
Needless to say, when she grew up, she'd use that wand endlessly to improve herself also. She'd be taller, slimmer, younger, more beautiful, and even more giving, selfless and understanding. So that, finally her life – and the life of her loved ones – would be P-E-R-F-E-C-T.
Not having been given that magic wand hasn't stopped most of us waving our arms about virtually to the point of RSI. And yet, we haven't been able to perfect other people, or ourselves.
That doesn't stop us believing that, with a little more effort, we'll crack it. You see, most of us get confused: we think that magical relationships come about as a result of waving our magic wand, and we're bound to get there, one day.
To the best of my knowledge, one day, and some day, are not days of the week. Yet. Maybe if we'd all been given our standard issue magic wand, at birth, by now, the days of the week would be:
- One day
- Some day
- Holi - day
- Fun day
- My lucky day
- Happy ever after day...
Chances are you know where I'm going with this: 'magical thinking' doesn't work too well in the real world. In fact, it doesn't work at all.
The real magic lies somewhere else entirely.
The real magic lies in focusing on what you really want, and then taking action to bring it into being. Waving an arm about wistfully doesn't count as action. Nor does hiding away, dreaming, count as action. Dreams are great. But not when you put the power of making them happen somewhere outside yourself.
The trouble with all that magic wand stuff is this: it makes you underestimate your own power as the architect of your own life.
Suppose that magic wand stuff was actually shorthand – which it is. At birth, every little girl was given amazing potential to create the world of her choosing. She just had to learn how to use that potential.
The best part of it is that the potential never goes away. It may take itself off quietly to the broom cupboard, if you slip into Cinderella mode for a few months, years, or even decades. But it's still there. Still waiting for the day when you ditch the (not so) magic wand, and decide to make use of the treasures you’ve overlooked, and undervalued.
Go look in the broom cupboardJ