Entries by Annie Kaszina

DO YOU PREFER DRAMA OR LEMONADE?

Picture this: a woman who is – almost literally – tearing her hair out, with desperation.  One relationship in her life has been traumatic, and painful.  She defines herself, solely, in terms of that flawed  and damaging relationship. A little gentle ‘probing’ from me reveals that overall the balance sheet is pretty positive: Other intimate […]

WHAT ARE YOU FOCUSING ON?

It’s no secret that the people who are clear about what they want and steer their course through life in an appropriate and consistent fashion tend to see great results.  Yet not everybody seems able to do that. Why not? The answer may not be quite what you think. Sure, we’ve all heard about the […]

ARE YOU HAVING ENOUGH FUN?

Are you having enough fun? How did you respond to the question? Did you give yourself a quick pat on the back and smile because you are having a load of fun, daily? Was it more of a snarl because Life is a serious business, and there just aren’t enough hours in the day to have fun, […]

HOW TO MOVE BEYOND BEING STUCK

How do you move beyond stuck, exhaustion, a bad case of the Blahs, mammoth stress, and much else besides? That’s something I’ve been asking myself over the past little while – and why I’ve been silent. It’s been a challenging time, every which way: I’ve moved house and moved city, been through mammoth family conflict, […]

THE PROBLEM WITH THOUGHTFUL PEOPLE

Do you know what the problem with thoughtful people is? We think too much for our own good. See, thoughtful people can be great people to be around – because thoughtful people do think deeply, and they are people who are considerate of other people.  That makes them nice to be around. But it’s not […]

Do you underestimate Mars and Venus?

Have you ever had one of those moments when you are talking with a man and it feels like you’ve hit a wall?     Because you have hit a wall.  It’s that Mars and Venus stuff.  You could almost be from different planets. Suddenly, you’re not talking the same language.   And the way that you […]

Stay Calm, You’re Worth It!

Have you ever noticed how quickly your fight-flight-or-freeze reflex is triggered? Something – or a couple of things, or three – come out of the blue and, because they represent a challenge to you, you respond by going into overdrive.  Fight, flight, or freeze.  In the blink of an eye, “It” – whatever “It” is […]

How Do You Do Life?

How do you do it? Life, that is? Are you a barnstormer, or a softly-softly person? Are you a driver, or a passenger? Do you choose, or are you chosen? Before we go any further, I’ve two related confessions to make: There’s been silence from me over the past couple of months because I’ve been […]

10 Ways to Make 2014 Your Best Year Yet!

It’s the second week in January, and everyone is getting back to life as normal.  This is when resolutions start to falter, and plans and dreams for upgrading your world in 2014 can start to wobble.  So, what can you do to make sure that 2014 is your best year yet?  Create win-win situations for […]

 Give yourself credit for everything you do. Other people may, or may not, be as appreciative as you’d like them to be. That’s just the way it is. Make sure you give yourself a pat on the back for everything you’ve done.  Make sure you have some time for yourself. Christmas is a great time […]

Do you have a gift you’re not sharing

Have you ever been to one of those workshops that’s largely – if not exclusively – female?  What does that tell you? I was at one of those workshops the other weekend. It was one of those workshops about getting your gifts out there, to the largest number of people. And guess what? It was […]

“What’s possible for you?”

What’s possible for you? Why not take a moment, close your eyes, and listen in to yourself?  What do you hear? I’m guessing there’s a dream… And a dialogue.  The dialogue goes something like this: “I really want it.” “Yes, but what makes you so special?  What makes you special enough to deserve it?” That’s […]